Yesterday, on International Women’s Day, I wore red to work, but I was still avoiding my old-new-favorite lunch place b/c of a dude who works there-
A dude, who’d asked me out while proudly rocking a cold sore & said, ‘I don’t care,’ when I told him I’m married.
A dude who knows I work across the street & run on tacos.
A dude, who’d always been a little inappropriate…
Y’know,
A dude, who I’d always thought was ‘just being a dude.’
See,
#Manspreading has been around for a very long time-
&
It isn’t just limited to public transportation & Conor McGregor–
It’s the state of believing that, as a man, you have the right to more & to be more comfortable.
It is about wanting to have the most space (& power)-
The first time I noticed it was in school, where I found myself perpetually sandwiched between the dirty sneakers of #manspreadersintraining sitting behind me & the greasy hair of ones seated in front of me.
…That was well before there was a term for #manspreading & before anyone had explained to me that #feminists are just full of,
Y’know,
WANTING WOMEN TO BE TREATED WITH BASIC HUMAN DECENCY-
#Feminism is important to me b/c, growing-up, whenever I had experiences where I wasn’t treated w/ basic human decency by men, I’d just think-
‘Well, that sucked, but that’s life.’
Now, I know it was/is just,
Y’know,
#Sexism-
Which is a name for something I/WE can fight.
Tomorrow, I’m grabbing back my tacos
&
I encourage all women everywhere to do the same.
#TakeBackYourSpace
…Here’s a helpful ‘how-to’ video from last night’s Survivor premiere,
Courtesy of Sandra Diaz-Twine aka #THEQUEEN–
SHE WAS EVEN WEARING RED.
Well-played, Sandra.
TY for the reminder that to stay #THEQUEEN, you must always move like #THEQUEEN.
Taco Queen,
Your Grl On Base